The 40th Party

Just a quick photo entry.  Not too many words.  Tawn and I joined a small group of friends at Soul Food Mahanakorn for dinner to celebrate my birthday.  The food (Thai) was very good as usual and other than the oddity of being served sparkling wine in regular wine glasses (which the owner caught and corrected), everything was very enjoyable.  It rained heavily during dinner, the first rain in a few weeks.  Afterwards, the evening air was cool and relaxing.

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From the left: Doug, Tae, Tawn, Tod, Matt, Suchai, Ken, and me.  We are missing Doug’s girlfriend Bee, who arrived late from work.

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Suchai and Ken goof around for the camera.

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The T-Team: Tae, Tawn, and Tod.

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Slicing my own birthday cake.  How come I’m doing all the work?

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Chocolate raspberry torte.  Made it myself and will write more about it tomorrow.  Stay tuned.

 

Thoughts on My 40th Birthday

Since the day my nieces, now ages 4 and 7, were born, I have been writing them letters. These letters are being collected in a box for them to open when they turn 18. The letters are a combination of funny anecdotes about their childhoods, memories of my life, snapshots of daily activity, and also my reflections on issues, events, or subjects that I think would be worthwhile for them to read when they are young adults.

Normally, I don’t share these letters. But in light of today’s milestone, I thought I would share the letter I wrote to them today.  If you’re keen to watch the video version of me reading it, it is embedded below.  Otherwise you can just read it.


Dear Emily,

Today is my 40th birthday. In honor of the occasion, I want to take a few minutes to collect my thoughts at this milestone birthday and share them with you. Most people seem to dread each passing year and milestone birthdays depress them. Quite the opposite to this, I have found that each passing year gets better. I learn more about life, make new friends, have new experiences, and perhaps gain a little wisdom. To that end, if any of the wisdom I attempt to dispense in this letter turns out to be incorrect, I’ll still have my 50th birthday on which to correct myself before you are old enough to read these letters.

There are myriad lessons on life that are worth learning. Some that strike me as the most useful:

Live to your fullest potential. Your life is an empty vessel that will be filled with experience, activity, relationships, and accomplishments. How full will your life be? So few people are born with the advantages you enjoy. Honor that privilege by making the most of it.

Most people go through life not paying attention. Especially in a world in which communication is happening more quickly and the volume of information we wade through gets greater by the day. By not paying attention, people miss out on a lot of the beauty, a lot of the details, a lot of the important things, and a lot of the opportunities that come along.

The beauty brings joy, the devil truly is in the details, the important things can easily get lost in the chaff, and the opportunities can end knocking on an unanswered door.

Opportunities tend to present themselves more clearly than you would expect. Not only do you have to be paying enough attention so as to recognize them, you also have to be willing to take advantage of them.

Be willing to take risks, explore, push your boundaries, and test your limits. This doesn’t mean that you should do foolish things – although a little foolishness can be a good thing – but rarely will you grow if you only stay within your comfort zone. Try things that you think you couldn’t possibly do and you will be surprised by how things end up just being the baby steps to even greater accomplishments.

Exercise. Not only should you test your limits in terms of experience but you should also push yourself physically. Modern life is increasingly sedentary, a lifestyle for which our bodies are ill-suited. Make movement a part of each day. This doesn’t mean you have to be an athlete, nor do you need to suffer from worry and self-consciousness about your body. Just be active. You will have a greater appreciation for your body and will be healthier for it.

Eat well but don’t fret about food. Americans (and, increasingly, other cultures) have come to obsess about food in an unhealthy way. Enjoy food, but enjoy good food. Too often we mistake an overabundance of additives and preservatives that trick the chemistry of our tongue and brain for truly enjoyable and satisfying food. Eat a wide variety of foods, both for your good health as well as for the enjoyment of trying new things. Practice moderation in all things, including moderation.

Human beings are social creatures. Cultivate relationships by giving unconditionally, without the expectation of getting anything in return. Be caring and compassionate. Give to others, be charitable, be generous.

Assume the best of others. Be quick to forgive, quick to assume you have misunderstood, quick to let go of anger or grudges. They are seeds that bear only bitter fruit.

Things do not buy you happiness. There is nothing you will buy in this life that you will be able to take with you, so don’t accumulate unnecessary things. When you do spend your hard-earned money on things, wait before buying. Compare quality and buy the best quality you can afford, for it is better to have a few good things that last years than an abundance of things that break or wear out quickly.

Be thankful for the things you have – not the physical things – but the blessing of your life. Even when you are facing suffering and difficulties, it is all but certain that there are millions of people whose lives are much worse off than your own. While that may seem cold comfort at that moment, if you can focus your attention on the blessings you do have, it will make you appreciate the situation more.

Finally, cultivate happiness in the present. There is nothing you can do about the days that have passed. There is nothing to be gained by worrying about the days that are to come. There is only one moment that exists, and that is “now”. So be fully present in the now, enjoy it, and make the most of it.

Those are my words of wisdom to you on my 40th birthday. We’ll see how well they hold up when you read them in another eleven years. By then, I may have revised them significantly. But I suspect that while I will learn more lessons in life, these fundamentals won’t change all that much.

Love,

Uncle Chris

What about you?  What lessons have you learned over your years?  What advice would you want to share with someone who is becoming an adult?

Demolition of the Siam Theatre

Pent-up anger fueled the flames of arson when forty days of anti-government protests ended on May 19 with the surrender by protest leaders to the police.  The crowds that had blocked one of Bangkok’s main intersections for more than a month dispersed but before they did, violent elements in the crowd set fire to several buildings around the city in what appeared to be a deliberate and preplanned attack. 

In addition to more than 80 people killed and 2100 injured during the protests, one of the victims of the arson attack was the the 44-year old Siam Theatre, which was one of only two remaining single-screen first run cinemas in Thailand’s capital.

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Photo courtesy Southeast Asia Movie Theatre Project

Opened in 1966 in Siam Square, one of the first shopping areas in what is now the nexus of Bangkok’s lively Ratchaprasong shopping district, the Siam Theatre along with its sister complex, the Scala, were a reminder of a bygone era.  Tickets were still paper and you chose your seats from a photocopied seating chart, which the ticket cashier then dutifully crossed out with a pen.  The ushers, uncles that seemed to have been working at the theatres since the very opening, dressed in black slacks, white shirts, and yellow jackets.

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In the aftermath of the fire, the bulldozers have moved in and started to demolish the burned out shell and surrounding shops.  The property owner, adjacent Chulalongkorn University, has long held a master plan to redevelop this area into a more modern shopping complex as they did just down the block a year ago.  Their good fortune, then, that this damage paved the way for the master plan to be implemented.

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One wonders why we need another mall in a neighborhood (and an entire city) that is teeming with them.  Siam Square and the Siam Theatre were unique elements of the city and were especially important to teenage and university life.  As I understand it from my friends who grew up in Bangkok, hanging out in Siam Square was a rite of passage in that period of life where you transition from childhood to adulthood.  Another few blocks of those memories have been razed.

Thankfully, the Scala Theatre and the nearby Lido three-plex, both operated and owned by the same family that owned the Siam Theatre, continue to operate.

 

Saturday Night Update

Edit – Forgot to include the video and picture of Saturday dinner!  Apologies for reposting.

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Saturday night.  After a full day of working on the computer and a full day for Tawn out running errands and catching up with various friends, he is working on a blouse and I’m preparing dinner.  Something very impromptu, made only of what odds and ends are in the kitchen.  The result: pan-fried polenta topped with tomato sauce, bacon, and Italian sausage served with a mixed green salad.  Not the healthiest main course, probably, but the fridge is a bit empty of veggies other than salad.

It has been kind of busy lately.  The first trio of several guests the autumn arrive just before Thanksgiving, and I’m trying to get a very expansive work project (now in its fourth month) completed before then, so that I can spend some time with them while they are here.

On top of that, Tawn and I are hosting Thanksgiving at our place this year.  It will be held on Saturday instead of Thursday because Thanksgiving is a US (and Canadian) thing and nobody in Thailand other than the US Embassy staff is getting Thursday off work!  We expect close to 20 guests and will be doing a poolside potluck.  A few decisions I’ve arrived at: I am going to roast only turkey breast, not a whole turkey.  I am going to roast it in advance, slather it with drippings and broth, and reheat it before serving.  I am also going to make my gravy in advance from roast chickens.  Seriously, with 20 guests and a small kitchen, I am not going to try and do a whole bird and I’m not going to spend the $100 it costs to buy an imported bird and have it roasted at the market.

Recently I made a third attempt at Macadamia Nut Cream Pie and it was similarly soupy.  Here’s a short video in which my irritation almost starts to show.

Seriously, what is the problem?  Well, the good news is that this evening I whipped up a fourth batch of filling and it appears to be setting nicely. Two hours in the fridge and it is pretty firm.  But here is the problem: I wasn’t very scientific in my approach so I can’t tell you exactly what the fix was.  I bought some new cornstarch and threw out the old, just in case that was the issue (which seems unlikely).  I also modified recipe #3, a Betty Crocker recipe for vanilla cream pie, increasing the egg yolks by one, reducing the sugar slightly, and almost doubling the cornstarch.  The scientists among you will shake your heads at my technique, but I really can’t keep baking pies, each time changing one element à la Cooks Illustrated.

I’ll try it again soon and include a pie crust and take some pictures.  Please, dear deity of the kitchen, let the me replicate my success with this recipe!

My aunt, who was like a substitute mother for me once my parents moved out of the Bay Area for the Midwest, recently underwent some serious heart-related surgery and apparently is doing very well.  I’m so relieved.  There are people in life who have an especially profound impact on us, who shape elements of our outlook on life.  My aunt’s attitude of “there’s always room for one more at the table” has shaped my approach to hospitality, party-throwing, and friendship for more than two decades.  I hope she is back to hosting parties very soon.

In other news, I found out that Tawn’s fashion school, which is affiliated with a school in Florence, has an exchange program.  He could go study for a semester in Florence with no additional tuition costs.  Room, board, transportation, etc. would be an additional cost – a very significant one! – but at least no more school fees.  I don’t know how we could swing this but my job location is very flexible and I would certainly love to live in Italy for a few months.  Maybe I can take a leave of absence and study Italian cooking!

Okay, those are the things on my mind.  I’m going to go watch episode 2 of the PBS miniseries Circus.

Tawn’s Fashions – Voyage to Mercury Collection

As I think I have mentioned, my husband Tawn reverted to part-time work several months ago in order to return to school.  He is studying fashion design, something that has long been an interest of his and he is now exploring whether it could be more than an interest.  Family members and friends have been asking what he has been up to in his studies, so now that his semester midterms are over, he has graciously given me permission to share his progress with all of you.

The assignment in his “Collections 1” class was to create a fall collection of six looks that were strongly influenced by 1960s silhouettes and futurism and based on an astrological theme – the planet corresponding to your sign.  For the midterms, Tawn needed to share a mood board, technical drawings, illustrations, and a sketch book.  What follows are a look at the mood board, illustrations, and the six outfits.

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The sketch book, not shown here, is a tool the designer uses to capture ideas and inspirations as he or she goes about daily activities.  That gets translated into a mood board, the purpose of which is to communicate colors, pictures, fabrics, textures that will inform the collection. 

Tawn’s sign is associated with the planet Mercury, and as he viewed the planet he was inspired to look at “futuristic” as it was seen during the 1960s.  His influences included the famous model Twiggy, fabrics in neutrals such as black and white, with soft touches from tassels, silk, and feathers.

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This is the illustration that shows the overall theme of the collection.  You can see there are a variety of jackets, blouses, and an evening dress.  The purpose of the illustration is to communicate the larger vision of the project in a more concrete way.

As part of the project, he had to identify who he was designing for.  Who is the woman who would buy his clothes?  This was easy for him to understand because as a public relations professional, he is used to defining target audiences for his clients’ campaigns.  In this case, the target woman was an urban professional in her 30s living in London.

Since a collection should tell a story, Tawn created an imaginary story of two women taking a voyage to Mercury with side trips to Uranus and Pluto.  These were analogies to the experiences his target customer would have – working a long day in an office and then having to go out for dinner or a night on the town, wearing outfits that could effortlessly be adapted to the different environments.

Six outfits emerged from this story:

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Outfit Number One – This is the outfit that Twiggy would wear while traveling to Mercury.  The pencil pants provide comfort while the jacket provides structure.  The key piece is the bell-sleeved jacked with a texture that is similar to coarse salt to add visual interest.  The one-shoulder blouse provides a modern look and glamor that is revealed when the jacket is removed.  The scarf has a signature print that appears throughout the collection, suggestive of the hidden life that may lie underneath Mercury’s cold and dry exterior.

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Outfit Number Two – For women who have to go out to work and meetings, they need something that looks elegant and formal – clean cut lines with a black jacket and pencil skirt.  The blouse, done in the signature print, is very 60s secretarial with a feminine bow.  The jacket sleeves, while smaller than the ones on the first outfit, still have a distinctive bell shape.  The look is accessorised with a dark green stingray belt and dark green jade bracelets.

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Outfit Number Three – The bell shape theme continues but expands to the entire shoulder of a wool jacket gathering in pleats around the waist.  It is a gradient from white to light gray around the waist and then back to white at the hem.  The one-piece dress underneath is a comfortable but well structured Cashmere wool with a three-quarter length sleeve.  The accessory is a dark green jade breastplate necklace.

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Outfit Number Four – The look becomes more relaxed, something she would wear for Sunday brunch before heading out to an afternoon excursion.  The knit sweater has a shawl-like collar, bulky and comfortable.  The top is similar to the one-piece dress in the previous outfit but with a wide collar that shows the tops of the shoulders.

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Outfit Number Five – This is the transition to evening wear, a cocktail dress that sees the one-shoulder dress return with an integrated single-sleeve mesh blouse.  The wool jacket is inspired by Jackie O, lined with silk and decorated with the salt texture but done in medium to dark gray. 

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Outfit Number Six – The final look is a formal evening dress, called “Fly Me to Mercury”.  Decorated with ostrich feather epaulets as well as ostrich feathers on the lower portion of the skirt, this dress is elegant with small pleats on the torso that spread out to follow the silhouette of the body.  Long gloves and the signature print scarf complete the look.

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The final two illustrations were additional graphics Tawn created to present to his class.  He wanted to convey the collection in a lighthearted way, playing off the idea of paper dolls from the 1960s. 

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The story is of his muses, Twiggy and Emily, taking a voyage to Mercury.  He could see this concept being used in a magazine photo shoot, a whimsical way to present the collection.

So that is what Tawn has been up to.  Now, if we can scrape up $2,000 or so, he could actually make prototypes of these outfits.   Well, we’ll wait until his pattern-making class is complete! 

A Momentary Lull

Sorry for being away from posting and responding to comments for a few days.  It is a combination of lots of work that I want to complete before some guests arrive later this month.  I do have one post in the queue, about Tawn’s fashion design studies, but I need to sit down with him and have him explain some things to me so I can finish writing it.  He’s on a business trip to Hat Yai, though, so it will be another few days.  Stay tunes, please…

A Little Weekend Food Porn

While my third attempt at macadamia nut cream pie chills in the refrigerator, I thought I’d share a few pictures of other things I’ve recently cooked.

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In Hong Kong, my host Dr. Chris prepared a sesame seed encrusted salmon served on top of cold soba noodles for his dinner party.  The next day I asked if he would send the recipe to me and he hasn’t yet got around to it.  However, since I was his sous chef, I was able to recreate the dish pretty closely.  The secret is that the skin side of the salmon is given an egg white and soy sauce wash so the seeds adhere and form a nice crisp crust.  You can see the original here.

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I also did some baking.  Leftover white bread, which Tawn had bought while I was in Hong Kong and subsequently forgotten in the refrigerator, was reconstituted as a bread and raisin pudding.  Could have used some more egg, but was still quite tasty.  A loaf of half-rye bread is in the back, along with a few dozen oatmeal raisin cookies.  I brought those along for a dinner with friends at Soul Food Mahanakorn (since they haven’t much on their dessert menu) and then gave the remainder of them to the restaurant staff.  Good way to make friends!

Have a nice Saturday.  I’ll let you know how the pie turns out.

 

2010 Scream for Charity

Since 2003, a Bangkok-based company and member of the American Chamber of Commerce (AMCHAM) called English Solutions has sponsored an annual Halloween party for underprivileged children at the Mercy Center in Khlong Toei.  This was the first year I heard about it and my friend Ken and I went to volunteer.

Held the day before Halloween, the “Scream for Charity” gives hundreds of underprivileged children an opportunity to experience a fun day and a chance to get a taste of this very American of holidays.  Halloween isn’t celebrated in Thailand although in the past few years it has taken on a little life of its own, especially at nightclubs.  Thais love ghosts and all things spooky so Halloween is finding fertile soil in which to spread its roots.

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Hundreds of children wait for the final event of the day – trick or treating.

The Khlong Toei area of Bangkok is the city’s largest slum.  While I had previously been in some of the edges of the area, I had never before been into the heart of it and I was shocked.  While the neighborhood is full of life, it is also teeming with poverty.  One of the largest organizations helping the community is Mercy Center, a shelter for street kids, four orphanages, a hospice, a home for mothers and children with HIV/AIDS, a 400-pupil kindergarten, a community meeting place, and a serene haven in the slums with small gardens and playgrounds.

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The Virgin Mary and Baby Jesus on a shelf that usually holds a Buddha statue.

Father Joe Maier, a Catholic priest who has served in Thailand since 1967, founded Mercy Center along with Sister Mary Chantavaradom.  Father Joe has become something of an institution in Bangkok, speaking truth to power and shining the spotlight on the plight of the city’s poor even when the elite class would rather they be out of sight and out of mind.  His columns regularly appear in the Bangkok Post, an English language daily, telling the stories of the young people who have come through Mercy Center.  Sometimes their stories end in triumph.  All too often, though, they end in sorrow.

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The Scream for Charity was a lot of fun.  We had more than 100 volunteers, both expats and Thais, and probably 400 children.  Ken and I were assigned to the trick or treat bag decorating station.  Working with eight or so children at a time, we helped them decorate their bags with pictures of jack-o-lanterns, bats, and ghosts.

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Everyone, even if they weren’t showing it, was eager to get their face painted.

I didn’t have a chance to get a lot of pictures, both because we were busy working and also because the organizers asked that we hold off from taking pictures because it could become a bit of a circus.  Interacting with the children was fun.  Some were painfully shy, others were fairly outgoing.  Some still had that childhood innocence, others had been affected by their circumstances and were already jaded.  But for a few hours at least, they had fun, played games, visited the haunted house, ate food, and went home with bags of rice, candy, school supplies, and other things that are much in need.

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Khlong Toei is in the port area and containers are stacked high behind many buildings.

Afterwards, Ken and I walked the couple of miles out of Khlong Toei and back up to the convention center area to catch the subway.  Along the way, we remarked that it has been almost two years since our volunteer English teaching in Samut Songkhram province came to an end.  It seems that it has been too long since there has been any regular volunteering in my life.  Living in Thailand gives me a great appreciation for how blessed I am and how much I have that so many others don’t.  I try to always be appreciative of those blessings and not take them for granted.

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I’ll leave you with this trio of pictures from 2009’s Scream for Charity, courtesy of Fredrik Divall.  These capture the sense of the event very nicely.

 

Adorable Baby Picture

My cousins’ son just turned one and to celebrate, they held a “smash the cake” party along with one of their friend’s son who was alos turning one.  Another friend who is a photographer came along and offered to shoot the party since she doesn’t have a lot of experience with this type of event.

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Now, I’m probably doing the wrong thing by posting a picture of my cousins’ friend’s son rather than my own cousins’ son, but I thought this picture was especially adorable.

The whole cake-smashing party seems strange to me, though.  I don’t remember my first birthday but I hadn’t previously heard of making the cake-smashing the point of the party.  Everything is set up on a washable tablecloth and the baby is encouraged to smash the cake.  Did I do that when I was one?

Unexplained Landscaping

Sukhumvit Soi 53 (“soi” is Thai for an alley or small street) is one of the nicer sois in Bangkok.  There are generally walkable footpaths on both sides of the soi and several trees provide shade.  So it was a surprise when, in a flurry of unexplained activity, green Bangkok Metropolitan Authority trucks descended upon our soi, removed footpath pavers, and planted hedge rows and new trees the entire length of the soi.

Not that I mind the extra attention and new landscaping, although it is rare to see government landscaping that is actually set into the soil – potted plants seem to be the norm.  But this landscaping project doesn’t seem to be happening anywhere else, just on our already better-than-average soi.  That seems suspicious.

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Tawn and I spoke to the workers in front of our condo, who didn’t know much other than they were following directions from their superiors.  This shot captures both the full range of landscaping being added – tall hedge rows in the back, trees in the middle, and short hedge rows in the front – as well as the asinine lack of planning resulting in some areas in an entirely blocked footpath.

“What could be going on?” I wondered to myself.

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In some stretches of the soi, such as this barren patch, the new landscaping was a welcome addition.  You can see where pavers have been removed near the curb in order to add hedge rows.  The irony is that a few weeks later, these trees and the hedge rows in front of this house have been inexplicably removed.

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In other areas, trees and hedge rows were being planted right in front of properties that already have very lush foliage.  This seems a bit wasteful to me.  The tall trees you see in the distance of this photo, the ones on the left-hand side, are pine trees.  Some of them have been cut down as part of this process.

While we were viewing the planting, a neighbor came up and shared some gossip with us.  The landscaping has been done because a very important person is moving into the soi.  So important that, because of Thailand strict lese majeste laws, I can’t tell you who.

It has been three weeks since the landscaping and I haven’t seen any signs of the pomp, circumstance, and police that one would associate with that sort of VIP.  But it seems likely that this one-off landscaping which isn’t happening anywhere else in our neighborhood, must be the result of someone important.

We’ll see if the rumors come true.  Perhaps more importantly, we’ll see if the landscaping lasts.