Not “Liking” but Instead Liking

An exercise I began about ten days ago is no longer clicking the “like” button on Facebook, Instagram, or other social media sites.

It isn’t that I stopped liking content, but rather that I didn’t like how clicking the “like” button was nearly automatic and yet entirely devoid of human interaction.

Instead, I am commenting when I like something. Sometimes the comment is a very brief “nice picture.” Sometimes it is a more elaborate thought. And sometimes it is the simple message, “I like this.”

Yes, this means some trade offs. I do not choose to spend time commenting on everything I read. This means I do not read as many updates, posts, etc as I might otherwise. Which isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

Often, a comment I leave is responded to with a follow up comment. No matter how brief, there is at least that sense of interaction, of meaningful connection. I find it much more fulfilling than seeing a “like”.

Let me clarify that I am not proscribing or advocating this behavior. There is no judgment call. It is simply a matter of me trying something new, seeing if I can make my social media experience more meaningful and satisfying – for me, not anyone else.

So far, I am enjoying this exercise and the results I have seen. Over time, I may reintroduce the occasional “like” but only as the rare indulgence in an otherwise healthy social media diet.

20 thoughts on “Not “Liking” but Instead Liking

  1. I’d like to make comments if they’re my good friends. I see more comments than likes on my WeChat because they’re my good/close friends and relatives.

  2. It’s a worthy experiment and/or change to make. I feel like being more intentional about commenting, even though I’m still more liberal with the “likes” than I was before I started relying on them, has definitely led to more of those little connections and overall feeling a bit more connected in my case as well.

  3. good point. i may start doing the same. as i too find it pointless to keep ‘liking’ everything friends post on fb. and when i don’t do so, i feel guilty. as if i’m disliking it. but yes, a short comment is always better than a mere ‘like’.

  4. Interesting approach. I think it encourages a bit more interaction beyond clicking the “like” button, which has really far too often become an automatism.

  5. I like this blog entry. As a member of Xanga still (2.0), there is no option to hit a “like button”, and the footprints feature is gone, so comments are the only way to let someone know you were there. I do like to read comments, both on my entries, and others’.

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