Getting to Know Me

the-king-and-i-799367 There’s a very ancient saying, and a true and honest thought, that if you become a teacher by your pupils you’ll be taught.  As a teacher I’ve been learning – you’ll forgive me if I boast – but I’ve now become an expert in the subject I like most: getting to know you.”

                                                from “The King and I” by Rodgers and Hammerstein

Perusing my feedback log, I noticed that there are a lot of new faces (or footprints!) on my blog.  In fact, no fewer than ten new subscribers have signed up in the past eight days and 23 since the start of the year, bringing the total to just about 300.  Yikes!  Where did you all come from?

One of the things that’s always a challenge for me when I start following someone’s blog is understanding who they are.  Much like entering the cinema halfway through a movie, joining a blog that is already in progress leaves a lot of questions unanswered.  “Who is that person?”  “What vacation is he talking about?”  “What horrible illness happened two years ago?”

Matt suggested a few months ago that going back and browsing through earlier entries is a good way to round out your knowledge about a blogger.  That’s a good idea but I’m afraid my back entries have a lot of chaff amongst the grain.  To save you the trouble of having to winnow through my archives, I’ll give you a brief introduction of myself along with embedded links to interesting and relevant previous entries.  That way you can do as much or little catching up as you wish to do.

Allow me to introduce myself…

My name is Chris.  I’m an American citizen who was born in 1970 and raised in the San Francisco Bay Area.  Since October 2005 I have been a resident of Bangkok, Thailand (which I often refer to using its Thai name, Krungthep) where I live with my husband Tawn.

I started this blog a few months before moving here.  Its initial (and continued) purpose was to provide my family and friends an easy way to keep tabs on what I’m up to and the experiences I have as an expatriate.  A lot of what I write is about that experience.

Chris at the Elephant Kraal in Ayutthaya province.

I’ve written about my thoughts about possibly moving back.  I’ve written about what it’s like to live in Thailand.  I’ve been studying Thai since moving here and now read, write, speak and even sometimes understand the language.  Living abroad has a lot of challenges.  For example, learning to cross the street without getting killed!  Other challenges have included making friends in a strange land and dealing with fellow countrymen whose views on being an American rubbed me the wrong way.


Living here has provided so many wonderful adventures.  I’ve done a lot of bicycling to explore the city and surrounding areas, resulting in some interesting and unexpected misadventures.  For more than a year, I volunteered as an English teacher once a week at a tiny country schoolhouse ninety minutes outside Krungthep.  I discovered the schoolhouse on one of my bike rides, had a great time teaching there, and concluded the assignment when the director of the school retired.  They even included me in their Teachers’ Day ceremonies, which was a great honor.

My students at Bangkhonthiinai School in Samut Songkhram province.

Along the way, we celebrated the 60th anniversary of His Majesty the King’s reign (the longest reigning current monarch in the world, by the way!).  We had a coup.  My parents and some other family members came to visit.   Tawn and I bought and remodeled a condo.  And we hosted a lovely poolside Thanksgiving dinner.

Watching the royal barge procession to celebrate the King’s anniversary.

Of all the writing I’ve done about Thailand, though, the one that has received the most views was one I wrote about the debate over teenage castration, a practice common in young Thai men who feel that they are transsexuals.  For some reason, there are a lot of people who Google “teenage castration” and it seems my entry is pretty high up in the results.

As I mentioned, I live with my husband Tawn.  We were married last August in the United States although we’ve been together for more than ten years.  The story about how we met is a sweet one, deserving of a movie screenplay.  After we first met, Tawn lived and studied for his master’s degree in San Francisco.  Now that I’ve been here in Thailand for more than four years, I’ve spent more time living here than Tawn spent living in the US!

Tawn and I a few days after meeting in January 2000.

When viewing those entries, you might notice that Tawn is a man and so am I.  While I don’t feel the need to make a big fuss about it, it seems that my being gay is a matter of fact that comes up quite often.  For example, when we wanted to get married in California but couldn’t because 52% of the voters thought we shouldn’t have that legal right.

But this blog isn’t all about love and marriage and Thailand and politics.  The real undercurrent of this blog is food.  I’m a foodie.  Not only do I enjoy eating, I love to cook.  I particularly enjoy trying foods I’ve never made before, just to see if I can.  Bagels, French macarons, pasta, baking bread – I’ll try cooking or baking anything just to see if I can.

My friend Ryan and I buying bánh mì from a vendor in Saigon.

In addition to food, I love travel and enjoy meeting new people.  I’ve had the chance to meet several other Xangans both in their hometowns and here in Thailand.  Tawn and I have been fortunate (not having children makes it easier…) to be able to travel a lot.  We had a fun trip to Tokyo last spring, a trip to Saigon a few years back with a dear school friend, a trip to Seoul the winter I arrived in Krungthep, and a honeymoon in New York City, just to name a few destinations.

So that’s me in a nutshell.  There’s so much more I could write and so much more I’ve already written.  But I’m glad we’ve had a chance to meet and I hope you’ll enjoy reading my blog.

Which brings me to one more thing… one of the things I most appreciate in a subscriber is interaction.  We’re all busy, I get that.  But when people subscribe and never, ever leave a comment, it makes me wonder what interests them about my blog.  It’s a little freaky, in fact.  And when people send a friend request but have never commented even once?  Well, that’s not much of a start to friendship.

So don’t be shy, people.  I’m not asking for a lot, but a bit of interaction and an occasional comment means a lot for me and I think it strengthens the sense of community here at Xanga.

Best wishes,



0 thoughts on “Getting to Know Me

  1. Agh. I’m so unbelievably jealous.Not to say that I don’t love my family, but I spent 10 days in Peru without feeling homesick once.It was amazing, and I’d really love to spend at least a portion of my life in a foreign country.And I love food. A lot.So, nice to meet you. 🙂

  2. @BroadwayBound93 – My pleasure.  Thanks for commenting.  As for the living overseas, I would strongly recommend it for anyone, particularly for any American.  As a whole people, we need a broader sense of perspective on the world, one effectively gained when we live abroad.

  3. Very nice read! My boyfriend did some volunteer work in Thailand as well for two years. He really wants to return. He loved it there. I am going to read the rest of your blogs, because I really want to know what is so special about Thailand. He even said that he saw the most beautiful transsexuals there. That I would really love to see. I enjoyed your blog about going to China. I am really more interested in going to China. I want to learn the language and get a degree in it. There is a huge Chinese population here. They use my country as some kind of ladder to get to their next destination. So, I want to go to China. Beijing to be exact. We have to decide if it is going to be this year or next year. Please tell me more about Bangkok!

  4. @faustuosa –  China is a country that, other than Hong Kong, Macau, and a little bit of time in Shenzen, I still have to see. It is supposed to be a very interesting country, though, and I look forward to visiting it. As for Bangkok, it is a large, crowded city that is sometimes very modern and other times is very “developing world”. That’s part of what makes it so charming, that it can have multiple personalities! I write a lot about life in Bangkok. I’ve posted tags for any entry related in some way to Bangkok and they are listed here. Best regards

  5. I think your blog will work where ever life takes you.  After all, we all have to eat.  Personally, I eat everyday!  Love the intro and look forward to the food!

  6. lol stumbled on your xanga somehow.. but i love all the food blogs and stuff about thailand! and you’re right, its always interesting to try and understand the person behind the blog 😉 glad someone understand that haha.. but hope to read and learn about your experience in thailand!

  7. @slccole – You know, it is kind of an interesting question: would I continue this blog if I moved back to the US?  Would I have nearly as much to write about?  Certainily, the food-related writing would continue, but I think living abroad gives me so many things to see that are different from my “norms”.@radio03 – Welcome and I look forward to your comments.

  8. Great read as always. 300 subscribers, wow, it is the well written blog like this that will attract even more subscribers. Always look fowrad to your blogs as I have learned a lot.

  9. Happy to be your Xanga friend. I’ve been to Thailand twice and know men in my area that also have male partners and plan to move there. I came close to marrying a Thai woman, up in the north of Thailand, but didn’t because of timing. There are now lots of places you will be welcomed if you decide to move back to California. Even in Orange County, where I live. And if you do come back again, let’s have a meet-up.

  10. Oh yes, I did have a master class with Marnie Nixon, who also sang on West Side Story (she was Maria). I learned how to sing from the diaphragm, though I wasn’t a singer.

  11. Thanks for the tour through your blog! I have enjoyed reading about your adventures & seeing your beautiful photos. I live in Santa Cruz, CA and just realized that another of my former Bay Area colleagues is currently living in Bangkok. Here is his blog where he writes about the ex-pat life, politics, and Buddhism, in case you are interested:, you are invited to stop by my xanga site sometime. I mostly whine about children, but with a fair amount of reporting on the writerly life as well 🙂

  12. Really nice introduction, Chris 🙂 Impressive stories and I’ve learnt even more about you – for instance, I did not realise you only came to Thailand in 2005 (it sounds like you’ve been there longer).

  13. You said, “We’re all busy, I get that. But when people subscribe and never, ever leave a comment, it makes me wonder what interests them about my blog. It’s a little freaky, in fact. And when people send a friend request but have never commented even once? Well, that’s not much of a start to friendship. So don’t be shy, people. I’m not asking for a lot, but a bit of interaction and an occasional comment means a lot for me and I think it strengthens the sense of community here at Xanga.”Agreed. In fact I also have many subscribers, but few of them show up. Maybe what I have written did not interest them. But why did they subscribe to me in the first place?

  14. As you know I have been reading your blogs for sometime and Ii think I got to know at least the way you thing but this is a beautiful introduction to a person who I hope continues to be a Xangaian (new word) friend

  15. @CrazySwede – That’s really nice of you to say. Thanks for stopping by, commenting, and subscribing.@Sinful_Sundae – Thanks. How have you been? Haven’t seen much of you as of late.@oxyGENE_08 – He’s one of the earliest people to whom I subscribed, actually.@Fatcat723 – Glad you enjoyed it. One of these days I hope our paths cross in person.@ClimbUpTreesToLookForFish – That’s long been my question, too!@stepaside_loser – Sometimes, six years seems like a really short time. Other times, it seems like an eternity. Time is funny that way, huh?@DrTiff –  Thanks for the invite. I will stop by your site, indeed! I’ve also stopped by the site you recommended. Very interesting. Thanks for sharing that.@nov_way – Glad you enjoyed. One of these days, I’d love to create one entry, easily found on the front page, to which I post the “best of” my cooking entries.@Ricardo98 – Good to know I have some more peeps in the OC! Actually, Tawn’s aunt and uncle live there and they’re always very welcoming, too.

  16. nice to meet you, chris. AGAIN. it’s always nice to be reminded. you have so many blogs that most of the time i can’t remember, for the life of me, which ones that i have read. especially to top it all off with others by other bloggers. i often times find myself scrolling down a post to see whether or not i have left a comment. yeah, this guy is getting old :(but, it’s never a surprise for me to learn that your blogs have so many followers. they are both informative and entertaining. written in a way to provide facts, rather than to invoke people’s personal opinions, which i think what make your blogs appeal to a wide group of audience. n yes, i too hate people asking to be “friends” but never left a comment to open up a channel of communication.anywho, hope this year of the dragon will be another great year for you and tawn (minus the flood).

  17. @rudyhou – I can relate to the problem of diminishing memory… unfortunately.  Thanks for your kind words.  Other than an occassional post where I really feel like I need to vent my opinion about something, I’m much more content just writing about what I observe and experience without making it into an op-ed piece.Yes, we’re looking forward to a great year of the Water Dragon.  Unfortunately, reports are that the water levels in dams are higher than they were at this point last year, which is one of the reasons the flooding ended up happening.  Combined with an el Nino weather pattern in the Pacific, we could be in for a lot of trouble!

  18. @christao408 –  yikes! let’s hope no more episode of flooding coming your way. i think you guys had enough share of natural disaster in 2011. anyways, i do find myself easier to write something that i observe or experience than something that i would have to think hard about. however, with me, i tend to have more questions than answers, hence at times i tend to end my blog with a question, hoping that i would get some sense into what i don’t yet have an answer to.

  19. I saw your face on another site , there was something about your eyes…I’m married & straight btw so I wasn’t looking to flirt… Your eyes look soulful, I guess.I am a follower of Christ & I talk about Him & God’s teachings on occasion…will that bother you? Anywho… I enjoyed reading about you.Kris

  20. @Kris0logy – Thanks for your flattering comment and welcome. Many of my Xanga friends are people of faith – a wide variety of faiths – and many different perspectives on the world. All are welcome so long as they treat others with respect and engage in a constructive, rather than destructive, dialog.

  21. I may be late to coming to this post, but it is another well written one, with a lot of time and patience put into it I can tell with all the links to related blogs on the topics you mention to subsequently check out at our liesure. I look forward to finding time to click on them in the future as well as read some of your new posts.I found this post via a link you put in a more current post (about Xangans you have met), which was my first introduction to you. So this is my hello to you, and though my life is not as full of travel as yours, you are welcome to also come over to my little corner of blogdom and read my posts if you care to. Thank you for having this open and sharing your adventures.

  22. I’ve only been here for a short time and haven’t had time to do much reading, but I must day your introduction is awesome.  How wonderful to be able to express yourself and keep it interesting.  Look forward to reading more of your writings and getting to know you better. 

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