I’m going to cave in and actually answer a featured question. Can you believe it?
The featured question isn’t really the right one to begin with. The first question you need to answer – the question behind the question – is, “How do you feel about the adoption of children by loving, capable parents?”
I think most of us would support it.
There are tens or hundreds of thousands of children out there who desperately need loving, capable parents who will give them the care and support they need to reach their full potential in life.
If you support adoption of children by loving, capable parents, then why would you let untold numbers of orphans go unadopted, stuck in the foster care system, instead of tapping into same-sex couples as a source of great parents?
Is “one mommy and one daddy” the best type of parenting model? Given the 50% divorce rate of different-sex couples, the patterns of adultery, sexual discrimination, and spousal abuse, I can’t see that being a different-sex couple is necessarily a good qualification for being an adoptive parent.
Tawn and I have talked many times about the possibility of raising children. Without a doubt, we would be much better parents than untold numbers of jacked-up parents we read about in the papers every day, or parents that teachers like my sister tell me about.
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christao408 
You said, “There are tens or hundreds of thousands of children out there who desperately need loving, capable parents who will give them the care and support they need to reach their full potential in life.”I agree with this.
Agreed. Nuff said. 😛
I totally agree. I wish people would get their heads out of their butts (for lack of a better metaphor) and realize this fact!
@brooklyn2028 – I see you’re the strong, nearly silent type! =)
@TheCheshireGrins – And furthermore, people with their heads in their butts aren’t qualified to be adoptive parents! Ha ha…
@choyshinglin – Thanks for your comment.
What makes a good parent is their ability to love, care, provide and guide a child towards becoming a better human being, and I don’t see how a persons sexual orientation will change it.
I concur with Dezinerdreams….oh, new photo and nice hat too!
100% agree. And yes, that is a classy hat!
I totally agree with your answer. I hope you and Tawn do adopt children one day.
I disagree. Just kidding… how could I possibly disagree?
I agree completely too. You and Tawn will make wonderful parents one day.
@allthingsbarbara – Thanks, glad you like the hat.
Sawasdee Kah! 3rd year in the City of Angels…Hmong babies are cute. I wonder how hard it is to adopt Hmong children? Nice hat!
agree…there is no difference as long as you are capable parents, it should matter on sexual orientation. ryc: rents in Irvine for a 2b2b goes for about 1900+. I got a summer move in special on my current place and it is costing me about 1800 for it. Thank goodness for having a roommate to split the rent with. If you go a little farther, it would be a little cheaper (starting around 1600+ range) and it also depends on the apartment complex you are renting too.
You two will make very loving parents! I sense you both will fight for changing the diapers or at least fight for calling mom for help! 🙂 So when can I come to the baby shower? hehe.
@Apsara_Images – Thanks – I think the hat looks a little silly, but figured it was time for a change of profile pics.
@icebladz – Actually, the rent isn’t quite as bad as I had expected. But definitely expensive. Hard to imagine that my mortage for a condo in the city (here, that is) is half that!
@stevew918 – Well, if Tawn really wants the privilege of changing diapers, I wouldn’t deny him the opportunity.
The world needs more people that raise children to be loving, considerate, compassionate members of society. It shouldn’t matter what sex the parents are. What matters is that the kids are loved and cared for.
agreed.there are many incapable and irresponsible heterosexual parents who should just be spayed and neutered in the first place and never allowed to have kids, but no. there is no background check or investigation done when 2 idiotic human beings decide to just have sex without contraception while people who want to adopt kids need to be examined under a microscope to make sure they have the financial foundation to support the kids.what’s wrong with this fricking society?
Chris, you and Tawn will make wonderful parents! I assume you’ve carried out the 15 steps experiential test suggested by Momaroo? And I know you will exercise the same patience that you have exhibited for much of the world’s screwed up perception of what makes good parents, but no doubt work to make things better. And I hope that when the time comes, you will make every effort to adopt; any child will be lucky to have you in his/her life.
Yang1815 said it well. Parenting is the most difficult job any two adults take on…first requirement is a stable relationship between the adults (see fourth requirement). Second requirement is the desire of both persons for children. Third requirement is a willingness to share equally in “adult” rearing (children are future adults and need to be raised with that perspective in mind). Fourth requirement (should be first) is having the following qualities: patience, kindness, compassion, self-respect, self-discipline, and, most of all, a sense of humor. With these qualities, love is evident in my opinion.Now, let’s get the laws changed so any persons can build a life together with access to all legal benefits including the ability to marry and adopt children.
Definitely agree. However, the issue is a little bit more complicated than the “two loving couple who want kids should have kids” argument.
oops..I meant to say two loving individuals in a relationship…
@doiturselfer – Actually, we’ve done most of the fifteen steps, but Tawn really was against the one about hiding raw chicken behind the stereo for six months!
@Dezinerdreams – Thanks for your comments. What is amazing is that those against same-sex adoption seem to have the most bizarely unrational arguments. “That’s nature” “That’s what God intended” etc… How do you seek to have a rational discourse or look for common ground with that mindset?
@euphorie – Thanks for your support. We’ll send them to summer school in Switzerland with you!
@yang1815 – Nicely stated. Which movie was it – one of the John Hughes films maybe? – where the character makes the statement that you have to pass a test and receive a license to drive a car, but they’ll let any idiot be a father.
@jandsschultz – Thanks, Mom and Dad.
@bejewel07 – I was going to say, opening adoption to two loving couples – polygamy – definitely complicates the issue! =)
@christao408 – not sure about the movie but I’ve always felt very strongly with this whole bull crap adoption system. to me it almost feels unconstitutional that, like you just said, they’ll let any idiot be a parent naturally, but for others not as fortunate to do so, they must go through a series of tests and interviews and examinations that almost are prolonged torturing and very emotionally draining, not to mention very, very expensive. there would be absolutely no fricking way any person on welfare and pretty much impossible for the “low income class” to even start the screening process if they were do adopt, but there is no requirement whatsoever for anyone to just hump and become pregnant. what’s really said is not many people realize this.
I totally agree with you but with a minor concern when the children attending the school. Not everyone outthere is so understanding about same sex couples and this goodwill. I’m afraid of bullying issue or thing like that.
@blue_beau – Yeah, but children get bullied about anything. Too tall, too thin, to fat, wears glasses, etc. Children are just cruel sometimes. Children will survive the bullying about same-sex parents just like they survive bullying about anything else. Plus, they might actually be better off because they are with parents who truly love and take care of them. Many straight parents just have children without thinking or planning. Gay parents have to really work at it to make it happen.
Very well-written. I agree 100%